Friday, February 29, 2008

Speak the Truth

It only happens every 4 years. So I'm capturing it.

No, not the coming elections.

It's the leap year!





So in light of February 29th that only occurs every 4 years, I'm putting in a post.

I'd like to put in about speaking the truth.


How many of us have had encounters with long long lost colleagues or acquaintances or even friends,
stop us in our tracks
and we stand there in the middle of a busy walkway or middle of the stairs or holding up the lift, exchange pleasantries and at towards the end, we say
"We should catch up"
or "Let's meet up for lunch"
or "Let's catch a movie someday"
when in actual fact, we don't really want to catch up, we really don't want to have lunch with them, what more catch a movie but we say it anyway?
If we meant it, we would have stayed in contact all these years.


Every time that happens to me and I hear those words, I cringe because for most of the time, people say them because "it's what people say".


If we don't really mean it, try neutral noncommittal responses like "Take care", "Keep well" or "Keep safe".


I say, say only what you really mean. If not, don't say anything at all.

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Dr Randy Pausch

Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams by Professor Dr Randy Pausch

[Edit: I should have put a little introduction on who this person is.

So, here is what I got from ABC News
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/PersonOfWeek/story?id=3633945

Sept 21, 2007

Randy Pausch, a 46-year-old computer-science professor at Carnegie Mellon University, has terminal cancer and expects to live for just a few more months.

This week, he said goodbye to his students and the Pittsburgh college with one last lecture called "How to Live Your Childhood Dreams," on his life's journey and the lessons he's learned.

The Wall Street Journal called it "the lecture of a lifetime" and those who have seen it have more than agreed.

A beloved professor at Carnegie Mellon, Pausch got a standing ovation from the 400-member audience before he even opened his mouth. ]



I watched this talk over Oprah yesterday and it brought tears to my eyes.

It is only 10 minutes long.



This is in fact not a talk on how to achieve your dreams but rather on how to lead your life.

A lot of what he said touched me.


The brick walls that are in our way, are there for a reason.
They are there not to keep us out.
They are there to give us a way to show how much we want it.


ALWAYS HAVE FUN!


Tell the truth.


Apologize sincerely
- I am sorry.
- It was my fault.
- How can I make it right?


No one is pure evil.
If you wait long enough, they will show you their good side.
You can't make them do it in a hurry but you can be patient.


Show gratitude - simple thing and powerful thing.



If you lead your life the right way, the karma will take care of itself.
The dreams will come to you.
If you live properly, the dreams will come to you.




If you have the time, watch the full lecture - 76 minutes long.


Thursday, February 21, 2008

Chief of the Meat-Eating Tribe


My title every time my sweetheart and I go out for meals and I order steak.

It’s funny.

I’ll have the hearty steak and he’ll be ordering the leaner chicken or the seafood. When the order arrives, the waiter/waitress would by impulse try to pass the steak to him but I’ll claim it!

I’ll devour it like there’s no tomorrow and rave on and on about how delicious it was, if it was.



It’s a love affair I tell you.

I crave for steak.

Give me tenderloin!

Give me sirloin!



Recently, I tried the Australian Wagyu steak. I’ve heard it mentioned here and there but never paid any attention to the craze. I knew it was some Japanese beef where the cattle were given sake and given massages.

Huh?! Massaging cattle? What has the world come to?

So anyway, it was only last weekend that I said “Ok. Let’s give this Wagyu beef a try.”

ooOooh WOW!

The flavour, juicy and so tender.

Y-U-M-M-Y!

Chewing the meat I realized that the delicious taste was due to the fat content in the meat. It was quite fatty and only after pulverizing the whole plate did I feel the fat trickling down to my hips!

Eeeeeks!

If it is so fatty, why are people eating it?


Feeling absolutely guilty, I google “Wagyu” and this is what Wikipedia gave me:

“Wagyu refers to several breeds of cattle genetically predisposed to intense marbling and to producing a high percentage of oleaginous unsaturated fat. Also known as Kobe-style beef, the meat from Wagyu cattle is known worldwide for its marbling characteristics, increased eating quality through a naturally enhanced flavor, tenderness and juiciness, and thus a high market value.”

“Because of the Wagyu cattle's genetic predisposition and special diet including beer and sake, wagyu yields a beef that contains a higher percentage of omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids than typical beef. The increased marbling also improves the ratio of monounsaturated fats to saturated fats.”

Yes, yes!

My eyes only see

“higher percentage of omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids” - which are by the way, very good for you

“improves ratio of monounsaturated fats to saturated fats” – good good!


And more from http://www.blackgoldfarms.com.au/whywagyu.html

Q. What makes Wagyu Beef consistently healthier, tastier and more tender than other meat?

Wagyu has a softer fat which improves the meat flavour and taste. The improvement is due to the higher ratio of mono-unsaturated fatty acids (MUFA) to saturated fatty acids. The IMF of Wagyu cattle is twice as high in mono unsaturated fat as traditional breeds. This results in a ‘healthier’ product. Research that first identified this higher level of mono-unsaturated fat in Wagyu cattle has also considered that this is the explanation for the characteristic superior flavour.

Other research have indicated that fatty acids found in Wagyu beef play a role in cancer prevention. A review on the effects of fatty acids on breast cancer has reported that concentrations of conjugated linoleic acid = 1% in diets is sufficient to provide significant protection from cancer according to Charles Gaskins PHD Beef Cattle Genetics and Statistics, Washington State University.




YES!!!

Guiltless now...


Thursday, February 14, 2008

Lovers' Day

To the love of my life,
here is our song

Come What May
by
Nicole Kidman and Ewan McGregor

(Moulin Rouge)



Never knew I could feel like this

Like I've never seen the sky before

I want to vanish inside your kiss
Every day I love you more and more
Listen to my heart, can you hear it sings
Telling me to give you everything

Seasons may change, winter to spring

But I love you until the end of time


Chorus:

Come what may

Come what may

I will love you until my dying day


Suddenly the world seems such a perfect place

Suddenly it moves with such a perfect grace

Suddenly my life doesn't seem such a waste

It all revolves around you


And there's no mountain too high

No river too wide

Sing out this song
and I'll be there by your side
Storm clouds may gather

And stars may collide

But I love you until the end of time


Chorus
Oh, come what may, come what may
I will love you, I will love you

Suddenly the world seems such a perfect place
Come what may
Come what may

I will love you until my dying day





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"I Only Want To Be With You"

I don't know what it is that makes me love you so
I only know I never want to let you go
Cause you've started something
Oh, can't you see?
That ever since we met
You've had a hold on me
It happens to be true
I only want to be with you

It doesn't matter where you go or what you do
I want to spend each moment of the day with you
Oh, look what has happened with just one kiss
I never knew that I could be in love like this
It's crazy but it's true
I only want to be with you

You cast a spell on me
And left me in a trance

I fell into your open arms
And I didn't stand a chance

Now listen Hunnie

I just want to be beside you everywhere
As long as we're together, Hunnie, I don't care
Cause you've started something
Oh can't you see?
That ever since we met
You've had a hold on me
No matter what you do
I only want to be with you

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My dear darling is not with me today for Lovers' Day.
He's gone to Kota Kinabalu for work. As he aptly say "Kena kerja; Cari duit."
I'm alright with that. I mean, that's the same moolah I'll be using anyways! HA HA HA...

Anyway, we had our Valentine's dinner on its eve.

On the way home, a comment by the radio DJ made me laugh.
She said "Tomorrow is a day for those single to really feel that they are single!".
That is SO true.
Yes, rub it in with a full day about lovers... Ouch!


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"The greatest thing you will ever learn,
is just to love,
and be loved in return"
(Moulin Rouge)



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Monday, February 11, 2008

Year of The Rat

Many will flinch at the sight of this:


I bet I can improve considerably the whole rat perspective with one simple picture:





Yes, that happens to be the world's most famous glove, worn by none other than, Mr Mickey Mouse!








How can you not smile looking at this rat!





HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR


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12 Feb 2008




After more than quarter of a decade of receiving ang pows (traditionally red packets containing cash) at every Reunion dinner on the eve of Chinese new year, I never really took the interest in understanding the significance of this ritual. I mean, if people give money to you without expecting anything in return, then why question the system right?

I always thought of it as some form of cultural practice passed down from generation to generation. Maybe thousands of years ago, these Chinese new year eve gathering were the only times when family members from near and far get to meet each other. So they probably brought along with them produce from their farms as gifts for relatives. But with the introduction of money, people give away cash instead. Pretty good imagination huh?

It was a question a friend asked me just before we went off for the long weekend that I finally discovered the significance of the red packets.

"So do your parents give you ang pows?", he asked.

"Oh never", I replied. "If we ask, they say they give us ang pows every day!".

He laughed but added "But ang pows are supposed to be tokens".

"Tokens of what? For being their child?!", I answered quickly and sarcastically.

He replied, "Oh no. When an ang pow is given, it is supposed to go with some wish or prayer. Like "I hope with this money you will be able to study better". Or "I hope with this token, your business with prosper"".

That silenced me.

Well, no one said that to me!

Apparently, it is believed that if the money you give away brings success to the recipients, then karma being what it is, you will get your just rewards in many fold.

Hmm, to me, it sounds like the Islamic version of giving money to the poor and needy. Same principles I suppose. But here, it's focused on the family. No wonder some of my friends' relatives give them so much ang pows, in the hundreds and even thousands.

Well now I know.






Monday, February 4, 2008

latest read - The Road

The power of influence of the idiot box, also known as, the television:




There I was, one weekend, flipping from one channel to another and stopped on one featuring Oprah interviewing this rather old chap by the name of Cormac McCarthy.

Hmm...
Doesn't right a bell... Doesn't seem interesting enough...

Until she mentioned over and over again:

"First TV Interview Ever"

"Renowned Author"

"Recluse author sitting with me for a once-in-a-lifetime interview"

... again and again...

Watching and listening further, this camera-shy man, never once looking at the camera, with a low voice, one hand almost always covering part of his face, said that this book is dedicated to his son - the love of his life.

Before long, I was in a bookshop picking up the book!

Ah!
The power of influence of tv or more accurately, the power of influence of Oprah. If she runs for President, I'm sure she will win hands down.




The Road by Cormac McCarthy

I would not have thought twice about the man had it not been for Oprah.
Ahh, so he's the man who wrote "All the Pretty Horses" and "No Country for Old Men". Both adapted to movies and the movie from the latter won awards in the recent Golden Globe and Screen Actors Guild Awards.

I should have learnt my lesson from several of her recommended book which did not jive with my type of reading but she was so convincing with her enthusiasm. Thus I fell into the "trap", again! Dang!

But in hindsight, I suppose any book is good even if you do not enjoy reading it. There's always something to learn.

I cannot deny that his ability in describing in elaborate detail his take of post-apocalypse was very good.

I could actually see in my mind and feel the perpetual cold and fear, smoky, gray and barren landscape, as the man in the story and his son walked from one place to another, exploring potentials and putting hope when they so often find that hope are few and far between.


There were two things that I captured from this book:

One, we fear the things we don't know. So, we imagine the worst of everything when in fear. And once in fear, we react to the only way we know how - survival instinct.

And two, for the sake of love, we do extraordinary things, both good and bad. We ignore pain, we ignore our own suffering, we risk our lives and we can even bring ourselves to kill another with the believe to protect the ones we love.


So, yes, this is a love story - a father of his son.


Excerpt from the book:
Just remember that the things you put into your head are there forever, he said. You might want to think about that.

You forget some things, don't you?


Yes. You forget what you want to remember and you remember what you want to forget.



How ironic and how true...



Article from The Associated Press about Oprah's interview with Cormac McCarthy:
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Oprah Winfrey chooses 'The Road,' by reclusive author Cormac McCarthy
The Associated Press
Published: March 28, 2007

NEW YORK: Before Wednesday, few could have imagined the names "Oprah Winfrey" and "Cormac McCarthy" appearing in the same sentence.

McCarthy, one of the United States' most revered and press-shy authors — a man only slightly more accessible than J.D. Salinger — will give his first ever television interview, lured by Winfrey, publishing's biggest hit-maker and a media superstar.

Winfrey announced Wednesday on her TV talk show that McCarthy's "The Road" was her new book club pick.

"Mr. McCarthy respects her work, admires what she has accomplished, has an awareness of her book club, and thought it would be interesting to participate in the conversation with Oprah," McCarthy's publicist, Paul Bogaards of Alfred A. Knopf, told The Associated Press. "He knew who she was when she called."

In selecting "The Road," not only will Winfrey meet with an author who, according to Bogaards, has given just two interviews in the past 40 years, but she has taken on a novel with little of the uplifting spirit she often favors.

"The Road," published last September by Knopf, is a sparely written story of a father and son trying to survive as they wander through a burned, bare, post-nuclear landscape. Praised almost universally by reviewers, it was a finalist for the National Book Critics Circle prize and is considered a leading contender for the Pulitzer Prize.

"It's unlike anything I've ever chosen as a book club selection before because it's post-apocalyptic. (It is) very unusual for me to select this book, but it's fascinating," Winfrey said on her show.

McCarthy, 73, is known for novels such as "All the Pretty Horses" and "Blood Meridian," and has been widely cited as an heir to William Faulkner for his biblical prose and rural settings. He has been called too sentimental, but critic Harold Bloom, famous for his discernment, regards McCarthy as one of the greatest living American writers, along with Don DeLillo, Philip Roth and Thomas Pynchon.

"That shows good taste on her part," Bloom said of Winfrey's choice.

Winfrey has taken on harsher stories before, such as Elie Wiesel's Holocaust classic, "Night," and, notoriously, James Frey's "A Million Little Pieces," a memoir of addiction and recovery that turned out to be largely fabricated.

In the coming weeks, the reclusive McCarthy, who did not appear on Wednesday's show and who lives in New Mexico, will conduct his "first television interview ever," Winfrey said.

"It's a bit of a surprise, but a wonderful surprise," McCarthy's editor, Knopf president Sonny Mehta, told the AP. "This is good news for those of us who have been in the Cormac McCarthy business for a very long time."

"The Road" is one of McCarthy's most popular books, spending several weeks on numerous best seller lists. According to Nielsen BookScan, which tracks about 70 percent of industry sales, it has sold 138,000 copies in hardcover in the United States. Thanks to Winfrey, that total should increase by hundreds of thousands. A paperback was not planned until September, but Vintage Books, understandably, is publishing one now, with a massive first printing of 950,000 copies.

"It's going to be a big year for Cormac," said Mehta, noting the planned release later this year of the Coen brothers film, "No Country for Old Men," based on the McCarthy novel of the same name.

Winfrey's choice also marks the first time in five years that she has picked a work of contemporary fiction. In 2002, she suspended the club for a year and revived it with an emphasis on "classics," such as John Steinbeck's "East of Eden" and Faulkner's "As I Lay Dying." Her pick before McCarthy was Sidney Poitier's memoir, "The Measure of a Man."

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Associated Press writer Megan Reichgott contributed to this story from Chicago.
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